THE process of positively believing in and visualising success is at the core of everything I do. The ability to choose to let your-self be success-full is key to finding continuing success.
PART of living in a positive and affirming way is to allow the world to be viewed positively as much as possible and choosing to not complain. INDULGING in the process of complaint allows your energy to be directed onto negative events and negative outcomes. We tend to get what we expect; Henry Ford is famous for saying, “If you think you can do something, or you think you can’t, you’re probably right.” Well, that’s fine for automobile tycoons. What about me? I hear you cry. GOING complaint-free does not have to be difficult, begin by choosing to consciously observe where complaints are occurring and do not join in the complaining process. While the complaints happen work through all the things that you are grateful for about the particular complaint, it could be a particular problem with a sports team member, or a tough section of a course or route that you are doing, or it could be a person who you can find challenging at times. BETTER yet, drive the conversation towards positive discussion and make people aware of some of the positive things that are going on in your life and in theirs. SWITCHING from complaining at events to conscious choice not to complain allows you to find the positive in life. Finding positive outcomes from what is going on in the world. By finding ways to not join in with the complaint, aiming always to find the 'silver lining' we allow our minds to become orientated around positive results and successes. RE-TUNING to listen for complaint you will be astounded by how much of your language, speech, conversation - and therefore implicitly your action too - is dictated by complaint. CHOOSING to live complaint-free is a huge and beneficial step to your life. Let us begin with smaller goals. Start easy. Start by not complaining about the easy things, making breakfast, driving to work, walking the dog in the rain. Then move on to choose to not complain when a project is challenging, a sale is difficult, or when you are struggling with finances, or relationship trouble. FEELING a complaint or negative emotion rising, you can consciously choose to not allow it to surface. Exhale, yell, scream, punch the air, hit a pillow. Release the negative energy. You can choose not to articulate the problem, this only builds and affirms the power of the problem, only extends the difficulty. ARTICULATION is not going to make the difficulty easier or the problems falls smaller. Choosing to release your negative energy and continue on positive energy will help. Positive energy and a positive mindset will allow you to create beneficial results from your actions. NEXT time you are faced with complaint, focus on the language that you are using. Every-thing that you say, do and think has an effect on your emotions and energy. Choose to allow your-self to bring only positive experiences into your life. USING our conscious choice to generate positive experiences a key point my e-Courses, find out more in the e-Courses page, click here. Alternatively, check out my mini-course on visualisation, learn how to positively visualise to succeed more, click here ACM
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THE processes of mental training that I work on during my courses are fortified by an ability to remain positive. This means that we address ourselves (our self-talk) with positive language, discuss future projects in positive words, joke about past climbs – success-full or otherwise – in positive terms, and live in positive language as much as possible.
ONE help-full method of finding positive ways to talk about our experiences is to create a system of gratitude. Gratitude is defined as “being thankful, appreciation of, & inclination to return kindness.” Gratitude is being grateful, giving thanks for the good that comes to us, and celebrating our successes. In the definition above, gratitude is also an “inclination to return kindness.” By this, we mean that once we are grateful for the gifts of the world, then we will feel disposed to give back. When someone at work always spots that we are feeling tired in the morning, and brings coffee. Or the driver who lets us out when the traffic is deathly busy, we then ‘return the favour’ to another driver half a mile on. The process of return allows the circle to continue. Allowing the cycle of gratitude to continue, and more importantly to spread and grow. THINKING about gratitude is a start,. By this I mean that thinking: “oh, today was good, thanks to the guy who let me out this morning, lovely dinner with Kayleigh, wonder-full sunset on the drive home.” This thought process helps, better yet is to make it solid. Make it real, it is far more power-full than thinking about your gratitude to write it down and (best of all) speak it too. WHEN we go through the process of writing it down, the words from our minds and thoughts travel down to our hands, scribe out the thoughts with groups of muscles. Then our mind rereads the words, they enter the mind through the eye, entering the visual parts of the brain. When spoken, they go through the mind, over the parts of the brain defined for speech, then come back through our ears to the sound receiving parts of our brain. SO thinking alone creates patterns of gratitude, further than this the process of writing, reading, speaking and listening helps to completely saturate our mind with the process of our gratitude. The whole process becomes a power-full positive process. FIND a notebook, journal pad, sketch book or something similar in a local stationary shop. And let it become your Gratitude Journal. Put it somewhere that makes it easy for you to pick up in the evening, as you climb into bed and write. Then talk over your gratitude with a partner, or with yourself. (No one cares if you are talking to your-self if no one is there to hear you!) Or have the process at dinner time, at the beginning of the meals – or the end to avoid cold food! This surely is an extension of a well accepted system of saying ‘grace’. Being thank-full to our God for food, and being thank-full to our God and the world for all the gifts of our day that we have to be grateful for. CHANCES are that you do not have a journal to hand that you can use right now this very second, grab an old envelope for tonight, a bit of scrap paper. Anything. I want you to begin. Today. Right now. Let the power of your gratitude fill your life. Live Joyously, ACM ON learning: We do not learn to climb. We learn by doing. We do not join a four-week beginners course and then at the end, pop, we can ‘climb’. We learn by getting onto a wall and climbing. When we are two holds up, half way, one hold off our first glorious victorious ascent, are we learning? No, we are climbing.
WHEN we begin training and getting better we are not learning new techniques and skills. We are doing them. We practice our drop knees, and our rock overs, and our crimping. We learn by doing. WHERE does this doing occur? In an environment that lacks danger, stress, worry, terror. The reason we learn in easier terrain is that he brain can only handle a certain number of stresses. ‘Learning’ of new skills is a stress on the brain. Add in panic about the height and danger, Fear of falling or not being ‘any good’, and the usual mix of worries when beginning new skills and our brain cannot easily take in the new information that is being sent to it. COMFORT is what is needed to do these new tasks and to become capable of repetition, for this is what ‘learning’ is. The ability to repeatedly do the same action, over and over, with the same result. We become capable of successful repetition after taking an action and repeating it time and time again, by doing that action. Learning by doing. SO when taking up new challenges it is best to begin new skills and techniques in a safe place. In canoeing, go into a swimming pool, in climbing take a top rope. Take part of the stress out of the situation. Practice doing the moves, do them again and again, repeating the process until you feel sure that you can do it. TAKE the analogy of riding a bike. We do not begin by being pushed into the traffic at 6 o’clock in Piccadilly Circus. We begin on flat grass with a soft landing and a guiding hand on the back of the bike. It is wise to take the same approach to new climbing techniques, even with the mental training that is my focus. USING techniques of visualisation and route planning on your hardest possible climbing grade is undoubtedly vital, however, when you step back a couple of grades to use to it you find that you can read the route and the moves easily. This allows you to practice the process and get familiar with it before applying it to harder routes where you have a lot more difficulty and danger involved that may derail your efforts. WHEN you have new techniques, skills and strategies to practice, step back and think of that grassy meadow and the gentle hand on the back of your saddle. Practice gently and soon you will naturally discover that the hand is not there anymore and that you are doing it beauty-fully on your own. MORE on visualisation is available in the Free Mini-Course available simply by following the link at the top of the page. “What you focus on grows” – Christine Kane.
How you use your voice has a strong reflection on how your reality appears you. When we look at the world positively and see it as full of positive experiences and beautiful, fulfilling encounters we are led to see more of what is beautiful and positive. However, when we see the world negatively and focus on the negative things, the world reflects this on the rest of our experience. Our voice is a projection of our mind into the physical world. Our voice indicates how the world will continue to be viewed, how positively or negatively. Speaking positively of our experiences will attract positive and beneficial actions to us, and when we speak negatively our future experiences will follow those same patterns too. How we choose to speak and address the world and our experiences is heard by all those around us. When friends hear that you had a terrible day, and the traffic was murder, the coffee machine broke - again - your inbox is overflowing, it rained all day and your neighbour’s cat was sick on your front door step. This creates a mood for you to be placed in. A day told like that will receive lots of grave, stern head nodding and murmurs of agreement about the poor state of the world. Along with further anticipation of continued drama and grief. When we take the same experience and we report on it positively we find we receive a more positive response and the whole day looks far better; the road works meant you got to listen to your favourite song, you ran out to the cafe on the corner in your lunch break and saw an old friend, you dealt with your inbox in record time, the canoe trip at the weekend will be better now it’s rained, and hey, the rain washed last nights cat vomit from the door step! How you choose to use your voice affects how the world will return your future experiences. And how you will perceive them. Choose to use your voice to positively reflect your experience. Let your positive voice allow your future to be positive and fulfilling. |
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AuthorAndy Clubley-Moore: joyful outdoor sports activist, writer, father, husband. Lover of life, activity, success and barefoot living. |